We live in an age where things and people are getting noisier by the minute, we all in the process of trying to be heard don't bother to hear other people out. Communication is a two way thing whereby one person is giving and the other is receiving and vice versa. In his book, 365 Ways To Become A Millionaire Without Being Born One. ; Brian Koslow had this to say about listening,'When you rearrange the word listen what you have is silent'.
We all in our different ways have tried to get people listen to us but they are busy as well trying to get people to listen to them. How do you get people to listen to you,do I hear you ask? Start by listening to them. The unversal law of cause and effect states you get from others what you have given to them, in other words, if you want people to listen to you, I suggest you start listening to them. When I mean listen I don't mean to space out which is a state of you being absent though you look bodily present. I don't mean pretend listening to people when in natural fact you're not. Don't think of selectively listening where person you are supposedly listening to says a word which your eardrums pick up a word and you start your discussion from there. I mean to really listen with rapt attention to whom you maybe speaking to and believe me you will be the better for it. John C.Maxwell, one of the world's greatest motivational speakers hit a solid point when he said, 'Loving people precedes leading them people don't care how much you know till they know how much you care.
In their books Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People and Seven Habits Of Highly Effective Teens, Steve and Sean Covey(father and son respectively) revealed the fifth habit, 'Seek first to understand then seek to be understood'. In other words they are admonishing you to LISTEN. A wise man said, 'If a man be gracious and courteous to stranger, it shows he is a citizen of the world'. When you listen to people,you are simply saying without knowing, 'You are important,therefore I am listening to you '. Listening is that little spark that would create great flames of effective communication. In his best selling book, The Magic Of Thinking Big; David J.Schwartz said, 'Big people monopolise the listening, small people monopolise the talking. To know a man's true worth, notice his listening ability not his talking ability. Many of the face-offs, quarrels, disagreement, arguments and misunderstandings wouldn't have been if one person was really listening. A native American proverb says, 'Listen or thy tongue will make thee deaf'.
A wise man added, 'You have two eyes, two ears and one mouth which are meant to see more, hear more and talk less'. Friends, let's bring out that tool of listening from the forgotten shed where he kept it and create the best form of communication ever. Permit me to twist the words which you know as live and let live, let's listen and be listened to. Even in United Nations Charter of Fundamental Human Rights that everybody has a right to fair hearing.
It's time to give a listening ear to those around us that they and others may give listening ear to us. One thing that separates a successful man from a failure is his ability to listen;one thing that separates a highflier from a groundcrawler is his ability to listen. Go on out there and display the forgotten art,the art that great communicators call LISTENING.