Master Your Anger â€“ Anger Management
Master your anger! Easily said and rarely done. Very few people are real masters of their bad temper. Some are under the mistaken impression that ‘angry young man’ is a complementary epithet. Because of this many a promising career have come to a sad end or stagnation. The seething anger within the self is the worst enemy one can have. You do not need an enemy, in that case, to bring about your destruction. It makes your spleen over secrete and can kill all good and healthy feelings in you until you recover from your anger. It can even wreck marriages even when there are no apparent quarrels. Latent anger kills the sexual instinct too. The great sage and thinker, Thiruvalluvar of Tamil Nadu, India, spoke about anger thousands of years ago, in couplets. Anger not only harms and destroys the self. It also harms and destroys your beloveds. Your enemies mostly benefit by your anger. Even then people shout at each other and nurse anger and resentment about their colleagues, bosses and rivals. Did you see the film ‘Falling Down’? Michael Douglas, if am not mistaken about the name, dons the role of a successful executive who brings about his own doom because of letting out his anger in a traffic snarl situation. I can hear some one telling me ‘no sermons please’. This is not a ‘sermon’, my dear friend, but science: medical science and the science of management at the same time.
Medical science and management science have done precious little research on anger, different types of anger and the effects of anger on human health. But empirical experience tells that the effects of anger on human health can be devastating. It can cause diseases from blood pressure to heart and cerebral stroke. Anger can well be the single most cause of deaths next only to smoking, Nay, smoking may well take a backseat. Frequently becoming angry is a sure symptom of a mental disease. It can be a full fledged disease too. It comes under hysteria, the name you give for any sort of emotional imbalance. Nowadays, recruiters give more stress on E.Q., (emotional quotient) than on I.Q. Even a heart patient can be given an executive responsibility but never a mental patient! Prospective executives should be well advised about letting out their anger, even in the most stressful of situations. They should be taught the science of anger management before they get their Master of Business Administration (M.B.A.) degree.
What is the connection between spirituality and management science, one may ask.
Christianity has categorized anger (wrath) as one of the seven cardinal sins. Remember John Bunyan’s ‘Pilgrim’s Progress’? If not, recall ‘Dr. Faustus’ of Christopher Marlowe. The angry man is like a man always moving with a sword injuring others, and injuring himself with the sword when he does not find any one to use the sword against. The secular thinkers of Tamil language have told four aspects of negative character: envy, desire, anger and harsh words. The early medical science categorized men into four types: sanguine, choleric, phlegmatic and melancholic. Other than the first type, all three types are negative characters. Shakespeare’s ‘King Henry IV’ has a character aptly named as Hotspur. Read the play to get a graphic image of a choleric man.
Anger is not a sign of strength as people often mistakenly think. It is a sure sign of weakness. When a manager behaves in an angry manner before his/her subordinates, his/her authority is pegged down. You can not imagine management without leadership and leadership without authority. Your subordinates may fear your anger. But fear is an enemy to performance. Executives of high order never get angry. Getting angry is reacting to a situation. You have to act and not react. When you get angry, you acknowledge your failure as a leader. Even when you punish a wrong doer, punish him without anger and use so many soothing, and if possible sweet words, when you award a punishment to a subordinate when he is guilty of a major misconduct. One may ask whether it is all right if one controls his/her anger and does not let others know it. No, you should not give place to that unhealthiest of all human emotions. There are some people who never get angry with people with whom they do not have an emotional relationship. But it is no great merit if you are not of similar temperament with your beloveds and subordinates too. So anger management is as good a branch of science as stress management. It has to be studied extensively and intensively. An anger free world will greatly enhance the productivity of the society.